Hello, Friends!  Can you believe it’s June already?!

Today I’m going to share something with you that has truly been a game-changer for me.  I’ve learned how to ask myself questions so that I come up with the answers that I like and want.  Clear as mud?  Let me explain…

I had a really interesting conversation with a friend about this recently and it is something so simple and yet can be so challenging to do.  We walk around all day with literally millions of thoughts firing off in our brains – thoughts about things we observe and experience, our feelings, thinking through things etc.  So many of our thoughts are automatic, meaning we don’t consciously think them – they just happen due to how we have been conditioned to react to various things.

Still clear as mud?  Just hear me out…

If I were to say to you “The sky is blue”, you probably wouldn’t argue with me, right?  But if I said to you “Why is the sky blue?”, your brain would start looking for answers as to why it’s blue.

Still with me?…

Now, if you tend to ask yourself things like “Why do things like this always happen to me?”, “Why are things always so hard for me?”, “Why can’t I just be more ___?”, “Why are people constantly letting me down?”, etc., your brain is going to come up with the answers to those questions.  And if you’re like most people, you aren’t going to like those answers very much.  In fact, they could really bring you down and make you feel worse in those moments.

My challenge to you is to train yourself to STOP in those moments when things are not going the way you’d like, or had planned, or when someone does something that makes you mad or frustrated, and ask different questions.   The questions don’t even have to do with what is going on at that moment.  For example, if you’re at work and something goes wrong with your computer and you’re in the middle of working on something, instead of saying “Why can’t my company get me something that works right so I can do my job?”, try asking yourself “What can I do right now even though my computer isn’t working?”

During various moments throughout the day, try to consciously ask yourself things like “How did I get so lucky to have such a wonderful spouse/partner?”, “Why am I such a bad-ass?”, “What can I do for someone today to make them smile?”, “What did I do to deserve such great friends?”

You get the idea…

Your brain will come up with the answers to whatever questions you ask it.  Hopefully the answers you get are ones that you like and want!  So the bottom line is – Be careful what you ask yourself and what you say when you talk to yourself, because you are listening.

Have a great weekend!